What most people get wrong about alpha and beta males

1 min readJan 21, 2023

I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard the term “alpha” or “beta” to refer to a specific guy nowadays, but I think I can count on my fingers how many times this has been used correctly.

We need to change this. And since I haven’t come up with any pieces on this myself, the best I can do for you is to share the amazing blog post: “What the manosphere gets wrong about alphas and betas” by Alexander (@datepsych)

And here’s why:

  • It helps understand where the idea of clustering males into alphas and betas came from and why it is imprecise.
  • Shows the inconsistency in framing alphas and betas.
  • Demystifies the idea of an aggressive, anti-social alpha male.
  • Brings light to the relevance of being a successful provider and leader.
  • Gives you actionable recommendations if you want to be more alpha.

I will leave you with my favourite extract from the blog post:

“Being an alpha only means something as far as you are an active participant in the groups around you. It is a description of your relationship to others in a hierarchy that you share with them.”

I hope that by leaving behind misconceptions like this, we can improve the way we connect with each other. So, I am very grateful to Alexander for creating amazing content like this.

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